35 Things On Being 35!

 

HOW WAS TURNING 35 FOR ME?


It was a reflection. A deep and profound reflection!  

I have accepted the fact that, I'm no longer a part of the young and the restless demographic. Haha!

Gone are the days that I can party all night till wee hours in the morning. These days, my idea of a party is being tucked under my blanket-- in the comforts of my bed.

I can't make excuses anymore. Part of adulting is being totally responsible of my own actions, saying the sensible words, having a stable job, and paying my own bills. I thought living with my parents as a teenager was like being in prison. Little did I know, that it was the easiest life one can have when you're provided of FREE stuffs. 

Yep, teenagers...don't rush yourself into controlling your own life. Because as much as it's the most liberating feeling in the world, 90% of the time you'll look back--- to when all the serious decisions and anything with monetary values in your life, was made by another adult. 

Yet again, I had no regrets of the life I chose to live. For it has given me lessons, opportunities, experiences, strength, and courage to take on whatever challenges and difficulties to have lead me to where I am and who I have become today. 

And for ALL of that, I am grateful!

On that note, I wanted to share the 35 THINGS I LEARNED IN LIFE, RELATIONSHIP, CAREER, AND TRAVELING--- that I would have definitely advised to my younger self... 


ON LIFE

1. Life gets better. Only if you work harder and believe it will be. Be proactive! Like, literally!

2. Never ever assume. There are always two sides of a story.

3. You can reach your dreams, regardless of your age. Here's a factual inspiration: Ellen Degeneres was 45 years old when she started from zero(!) into building her TV career once again. 

4. We are never too old to study anything. Even if you just turned 30 or 70 years old.

5. Communication is the best solution to any life problems. Talk directly to that person. Express if you're upset, hurt, annoyed, or embarrassed. 

6. Sunscreen is a must on your daily regime. While investing in good skin care products is the best gift you can give to your older self.

7. Stay curious. And never be afraid to ask what you don't know and what you want to know.

8. Having a positive mind and outlook in life is 100 times better than being grumpy and negative. Being negative will only give you wrinkles!

9. Don't be afraid to take risks. It is life's way of opening MORE doors and windows for you.

10. Don't count the years. They seemed long. Count every moment of everyday, and before you know it--- a year has passed by.


ON CAREER

11. If the job likes you, they will hire you. But make sure it is the job that you will love to do.

12. Stop working-- just for validation. You're not there to work, only to please them. 

13. Your passion and hard work will never get unnoticed. But it does take time.

14. If your job doesn't give you purpose, meaning, and passion anymore. Quit!

15. Help and treat everyone with respect-- just the same. From your boss down to the cleaning staff.


ON PEOPLE ( AND FRIENDS ALIKE)

16. Just because everybody is doing it--- it doesn't mean it's also good for you. Don't give in to peer pressure when every inch of your body says NO!

17. You don't have to have many friends, a few is enough. As cliche as it may sound, what matters is a true friend who will be there for you--- through thick and thin. And vice versa.

18. The decisions and choices we make-- speaks volume of who we are. Always choose the one that makes you a better and kinder person.

19. Take compassion wherever you go. Everyone of us have had difficult battles and challenges in our lives-- whether you're white, black, or brown.

20. Be kind. No matter how people treat you. Because at the end of the day, people will remember us on how we made them feel.


ON RELATIONSHIP, LOVE, AND SEX

21. Value your self worth. Really. 

22. When a man really likes/loves you. He will pursue you. He will invest time and effort. No buts, no excuses!

23. Love is not blind. We need to open our eyes to who's in front of us and what he truly is. Knowing the person from the very start is just as important as investing our feelings and time with him.

24. Young love is great to have. But don't stay there too long. Because you're a different person when you were 16 and you're a completely different person when you're 18, 20, 24, 26 or 30. In other words, grow up as individual, because the longer you stay, you will fall out of love and you will end up-- resenting each other. Never make such excuse that, "you're just staying in the relationship because you felt bad of wasting the amount of years you've invested".

25. There's a good reason for a break up. You are both giving yourselves the gift of not wasting any more time, to be more mature individuals, to be more respectful as a person, and to be able to give a bigger kind of love to the next one.

26. Moving on takes time. Take as much time as you need! And take the lessons you learned about yourself and your capacity to love from that break up.

27. Sex should never ever happen when you're drunk. Never.

28. Sex is never the answer to please a man to like you, the way you like him. Don't do it with the hope (or goal) of, "being the girl who can change him". Because the only person who will change a man, is himself.

29. Always have protected sex. Always! This will not only protect you from any STDs but also for unplanned parenthood. You can't bring a baby into this world from your mistake and unprepared life. (Ahhh, I wish every parent should undergo a grueling application process and interviews before they're even allowed to have children.)

30. The best kind of love and relationship-- is when you both value your self worth, you know how to genuinely communicate with each other, that you will continue to support each other's dreams, and you will always respect each other through your differences.


ON TRAVELING

31. Get out there and see the world. Get to know more the locals and the fascinating history (and stories) of your town, your city, your province, or your own country.

32. Contrary to what they say these days, traveling can still be expensive. But investing on it, is just like investing on a new iPhone, new laptop, or an expensive handbag. So would you choose to have a fleeting happiness in buying those things, or would you choose to have lifelong happiness through your travel experiences?!

33. When flying on a plane, always ask for the exit row. It'll give you more leg room and comfort! You can thank me later for this tip. ;)

34. There is nothing more fulfilling in life than learning life lessons from everyone you meet while traveling. So always have an open mind-- while staying true to who you are, as you collect these stories along the way. And take note: agree to disagree, just in case a debate will ever take place.


Above all these, the most important life lesson I learned for the 35 years of my existence is...

35. Always live in gratitude! With a grateful mind and a grateful heart--- life will reward you a hundred fold of blessings. 

WHAT LIFE LESSONS MADE A HUGE IMPACT TO YOU?

2017 and beyond!

 

What are you looking forward for this year?


I'm four days late. But what the heck! Let's start something fresh and new and exciting for this year!

As I grow older and more mature every year, I no longer do the New Year's resolution thingy. I was never good at it. I was never successful with it. And perhaps, it's safe to say that we all were. 

So I make things a little bit different. I make things rather more commitment friendly and attainable.


How do I start a new year?


  • I always start the year in gratitude. Four years ago, I came across the Happiness Journal and ever since, I committed myself to writing down any small or big things that made me happy everyday.


I have always been a firm believer of gratitude and positivity. I really make a conscious effort to be both in my life, especially, on how I deal with any challenges, on how I treat people, and on how I approach new things.

You don't have to buy the exact same thing. You can either use a nice planner you got from Starbucks or a really nice notepad. I love writing my thoughts, so this mini journal works best for me.

  •  Every year, I also choose a word to be ''my word to live by'' for the rest of the year. The word would simply remind me of what do I really want to achieve this year. It is something that will help me get by and at the end of the year, it will somehow summarize what kind of year it was.


For 2017, I choose the word--- ACCOMPLISH.


Honestly, I'm a person that barely finishes my-self-imposed-tasks! The word will be quite a challenge and a fresh change for me. Because for the most part, the tasks would pile up right in front of my face before I could really finish them.

To give you an example, to keep up this blog, I needed more time, commitment, and energy. So I really hope that by having the word-- accomplish, at the back of my head, it will give me more results rather than just the effort I did.

  • Every year, I make it a point to go some place new. Ever since the travel bug has bitten me many years ago, I make sure that every year, I should go some place that I have never been before. 

My birthday falls in March, so I make it as a good excuse as a gift to myself. I call it as ''my yearly solo travel ritual'' that I usually do after my birthday. 

If you're asking me how I am able to afford a life of travelling, the simple answer is I set my mind on a place and I save a good amount of my hard-earned-salary to be able to do it. I don't spend A LOT of money on material things anymore. I'm the first girl you'll probably meet who is never interested on a Louis Vuitton or Gucci bag or anything with 'labels'. Frenchie has taught me the most valuable lesson that label is not important. Only those who value it so much, would care. My 'valuable' purchases are usually my gadgets just because I love documenting everything-- online. 

This year, I'm brewing something big on my travel adventure. One good reason for this is that, it's my last year in Brazil and in South America. So I wanted to make the most of this whole year to see this country and this continent before moving forward to another level of adulting.


If my word for this year is, ACCOMPLISH...

what do I want to accomplish?


I want to accomplish reading more books than I have read for the past years. I have set aside books that I was suppose to read. So it's about time to finish reading them.

I want to accomplish writing more on my blog and really making it more interactive. After all, that's why I made it look like this.

I want to accomplish to be more healthy and fit. No losing weight, just being able to accomplish of not getting sick. Last year I was absent at work because I can barely get up from my bed.

I want to accomplish my 'legacy' for the school I'm working at. It's in the form of compiled lesson plans and fun-filled activities for the next teachers to come after I leave.

I want to accomplish more travel adventures with myself, Frenchie, my sister, and my friends. It's what keeps me pump up and exciting for this year. After all, I'm in France for the whole month. So what better way of collecting new adventures than jump-starting it here.

I want to accomplish all big or small stuff that I was tasked to do by other people. Promise. Really.😉


So what are your goals for 2017?

33 Things I Learned Being An OFW

 

In honor of turning 33, I made a self-reflection of my almost-a-decade-journey of being an Overseas Filipino Worker (OFW).

Disclaimer: This is purely from my own personal recount of events as well as meeting fellow OFWs on my travels and from my experiences in a foreign country. I meant no offense to anyone.


1. I have never fully understood the "hype" of Filipinos going abroad until I set foot on NAIA (Ninoy Aquino International Airport) for the very first time, on June 6, 2006 and saw hundreds & hundreds of us with luggage filled with hope for an unknown future.

2. And just like most OFW first-timers, I had zero clue of what my life would be in a new foreign land.

3. Leaving home was like re-living my first major break up! It was devastatingly painful.

4. I cried. And cried. And cried-- for days, without telling or showing anyone around me, how much I missed home and all the people inside it.

5. I was scared of losing my friends back home, and so I swear that I'll always keep in touch. But then slowly drifted because, just like any changes in life, you can't control people's lives from happening.

6. Surprisingly, I learned that I have a strong survival instinct, that came out naturally-- whenever I needed to tell  myself that I have to make it.

7. Coming to a new foreign and gigantic country, for the very first time, like China, was both awkwardly familiar and an eye-opener to me, maybe because of our Asian demographic. I didn't do any research, so I thought they were still living on imperial times. I was sad to find out that they wear normal clothes. ;)

8. It fascinated me how our way of life as Filipinos, although very different from theirs, yet somehow there's an inkling of similarities. Like: They, too, are family-oriented. They spend time with their families. They eat rice. They love hanging out with their neighbors & friends. They play mahjong for good times sake!

9. As OFWs, I learned that we need to be surrounded by fellow Filipinos in order to cure, homesickness. Yes, a Filipino house party abroad is a MUST!


10. We need Filipino food in order to feel that we've never been away from home.

11. We need Filipino music (or if we're lucky, videoke) to entertain our blues away.

12. A big number of us, OFWs have deep and sad stories to tell, and as to why we left the country in the first place. They are all, pang-Maalaala-Mo-Kaya worthy! Dear Ate Charo lang ang peg! :)

13. But nothing beats my admiration to all Filipino mothers, who have selflessly sacrificed their own children's growing years in exchange for a stranger's child/children and family to take care of.

14. I have never felt so humbled in my whole life, when I came across Filipinas in Hong Kong, after hearing their stories, their sacrifices, and their heartbreaking jobs-- all for the love and service to their families, that oftentimes, get unacknowledged.


15. We don't make easy money. Like everyone else, we also wake up very early and come home late at night-- to earn every cent and penny and paper bills, we sent to our families back home. We also have bills to pay. We also have foods to buy that are even three (to ten) times higher from the prices back home.


16. OUR LIFE ABROAD IS TOUGH. Even tougher than most of you. Because we have to adjust to the new dynamic of our family relationships. We have to deal with the culture, the people, and the language that are too foreign to us. We have to overcome racism. We have to overcome maltreatment at work. We have to overcome missing out on family celebrations. We have to sacrifice for years(!) of not being able to go back home. That's how tough it is.

17. Our façade life is a reminder that we need to stay stronger! That's why you'll never hear us complain, you'll never see our sad faces, you'll never hear our cries at night-- that even if some of us are already being abused and almost at the brink of losing our dear lives.

18. And having been to observe and experience a foreign culture, it made me think that our country and as Filipino people, WE CAN DEFINITELY ALL EXCEL IN ANY FIELDS WE CHOOSE.

19. We have so much potential. We are very skillful. We are very hardworking. We have common sense! And because we can literally adjust to anything, we can gradually change the world's stereotyping about us-- we are not just domestic helpers. We are the best and initiative(!) workers out there. And our domestic helpers are not idiots. They work with genuine compassion, utmost respect, and true kindness.

20. And with this in mind, we need to help each other rather than compete with each other. Stop the "inggit" (jealousy) or putting another Filipino down. It's about time to address this. A sensible human person and even religiously at that, will never ever do this. So be of help. Be a true friend. Be an inspiration. We will never move forward or excel as a nation, simply because of this.

21. Stop the hate. Stop the shaming of our (fellow) Overseas Filipino Workers. Just because your job is more skillful and more compensated, or even if you immigrated abroad, it doesn't mean you're not one of us.

22. Regardless of the amount we send as remittances, we are also contributing to the 13.5% of Philippine's GDP. So each of us deserves to be treated with respect and equality.

23. The truth of the matter, we are not the only migrant workers in the world searching for a better life for our families. Chinese, Mexicans, Indians, Pakistanis, Russians, Ukrainians, Africans, Georgians, Puerto Ricans, Thais, Greeks, Americans, and Canadians-- they were just some of the people I've met who have shared their own stories of finding a better life outside their home countries.

24. And as an OFW, I learned that I can stop the stereotyping about us, Filipinos-- by proving to my employers (and colleagues) that I am better at my job. In fact, I'm the best. I learned to learn what is needed to learn.

25. I did not stop asking questions. I started learning the city or place (Beijing) I lived in. I first learned the transportation systems (getting from point A to point B) and the interesting places to go, see & eat. I also learned a bit of their history and read a lot about the latest news of their country (and other countries). And more importantly, their laws (the DOs and DONTs).  

26. Because of this, I did not only gain respect from my colleagues, but also their admiration, because I know their city (or country) better than them. Key words: be knowledgeable.

27. Read! Read! Read! Be informed and be-on-the-know of the country you are currently living in! Immerse yourself in the city, or town, or country just like a local! Trust me: It's liberating!

28. Don't pass up the chance to engage a conversation with the locals or your colleagues. Don't be the Mr-Know-It-All though. There's a fine line between being smart and boastful. Feed your curiosity.


29. When i was in the US, everyone is telling me that this is THE DREAM LIFE, I beg to disagree. I've fully understood the scale of: Americans live to workSadly, I have to point out that despite having everything they need, they have depressing lives out here. I now understand why some of them chose to live in Asia. And oh, they have high crime problems, too. Just so you know.


30. So coming from the Philippines and having lived in China, I have greatly appreciated our simple way of life, spending time with our families on weekends, being connected to our neighbors & friends, and having no qualms, as long as we can eat three meals a day-- we're already blessed.

31. Sadly, we are being governed by corrupt politicians, who continue to fool us every election day. And we only get to see the BIG picture, and truly understand corruption when we step outside of the Philippines.

32. And just like millions of OFWs across the world, I can only express my dismay and frustrations from a foreign land regarding our government and its officials. But we can change this, if we will start voting for TRUE LEADERS.

33. So my wish and prayers is that, one day, hopefully, still in my lifetime, that GOING ABROAD will only be a CHOICE, not a necessity for us, Filipinos!


To my fellow OFWs, what lessons have you learned from being away from our beloved Pilipinas?

Let's Talk About Doing Something What You Really Wanted To Do

 

What is that dream that you wanted to chase?


Sometime in the later part of 2013, I felt drained and too exhausted with my job. Coincidentally, I was also ready to break up with Beijing.

For most of my friends, they thought I already had my dream job, being promoted from my kindergarten teaching job, as I became the Teacher Trainer to all our Chinese and foreign teachers around China.


The perks of the job did give me the chance to travel and see different parts of China, every weekend for free...


Treated to authentic Chinese regional dishes that their city can offer...


Stayed in fancy hotel rooms...

 

Most importantly, observed & mentored teachers

on how to teach our children of today!


Yet, despite having all those privileges I still had the need to walk away from it all. I felt stuck and caged. I heard these same complaints from other friends. Like me, they too, need to escape from 9-5 job and should be doing something more meaningful. Or explore, or be more creative, or be more adventurous. Blah. Blah. Blah.

In my case, I do feel that I'm doing something very meaningful...


I LOVE TEACHING. Yes, I do! It's in my veins and genes! ;)

But I don't love being in Beijing (or in China) anymore. 


That was my problem. And in my defense, I'm not the only expat who lived in Beijing that shares that same exact sentiment. Yes, go ahead, ask them... 

Thus, I left Beijing in June 2014, after having lived in a country and city that adopted me for exactly eight years. Bound to never-neverland!


Leaving China didn't mean I am settling back home in the Philippines. I saw it as a perfect opportunity to brave the world of unemployment and explore the endless options in life-- that many of us failed to see because we are so contained in a box of fears...


Fears to fail. Fears to leave a job that gives us financial stability. Fears of not being able to live up to our countless of responsibilities (i.e house bills, family, & children). Fears of what others would think about us, if our decision will end up as the biggest mistake we'll ever do.

Yes, it was my decision to walk away from my contained box. It was my decision to take such HUGE risk. And this is pretty much what sums up MY DREAM, after I left Beijing for almost two years now...


"I'm not sure what I'll do, but-- well, I want to go places and see people. I want my mind to grow. I want to live where things happen on a big scale."


Have I regretted that decision? Nope. Because I've seen places. I've seen people. My mind grew and learned so much, that I don't think I have learned in school and textbooks. And yes, I've lived where things happen on a big scale!

If there's anything I wanted to share with you as a GREAT LESSON from this taking-risks journey (with Frenchie as well) is that:


Our life is more liberating and awesome when we genuinely live a life we always wanted... not the kind of life that our society expects of us to live or other's dream for us.

This is the kind of life I want...to see more of the world, it's people, and the amazing lessons I will learn along the journey (and share them with you through this blog). And having the freedom to do it, is really pure happiness!

But of course, I would be lying if it wasn't hard. It was hard and difficult. The challenge was really to make it work. Yet somehow, somewhere in between the moments of my fears, I recognized a very certain word...courage. 

I walked the unknown path for almost a year. I didn't know if I was really doing the right thing. I juggled working on jobs that I didn't love to do, but I'm grateful that I did. I lived in a country that I didn't embrace completely because of its 'cold' culture. I met people that treated me as if I didn't exist just because they got more privilege than me. I learned so much about my strength as a person and my capabilities with human tasks. And in all of these, I never once doubted myself.

I have always this truest desire and gut feeling that I can do it. Therefore, I WILL DO IT!


The thing about taking risk is that, you have to walk the path of focus, direction, and determination. You have to genuinely tell yourself that no matter how hard the challenges will come your way--- you need to get to your ultimate goal. 


If you'll ask me if there's a right time of taking risk or taking that leap of faith? Honestly, I don't know. But then again, if not now...when?! 

And as my circle of life goes on, after exactly a year of leaving China, I moved to country number 4, in continent number 3--- after my brief stay in the US. Because, my ultimate goal was to live and work in Brazil! 😘


Because if I believed I could and-- I did! You could, too!

Let's Talk About Healthy Lifestyle


Do you believe that you are what you eat?


At almost 35, people have been telling me that I look five years younger. Or I would put an 18 year old body to shame. ;)

Awww, I don’t want to sound as if I’m bragging, but yes, I will own it! hahaha

Mind you, I don’t do diet. But this is the healthiest I've been and I'm loving it!

Thanks to my Ventanilla genes (and being happily not a mother yet)-- I’ve been a skinny biatch and quite tall, ever since my world began. :)

Fortunately, the-Chinese-food-culture-influence-in-me was such a positive impact as well.

I am also aware that aging will eat me up before I know it or motherhood in the future, that’s why almost half a decade ago, I made a conscious effort to take care of my health.

Why?!


Health is wealth. Really.

Tina Turner once said in her Oprah interview (something that goes like this), “You will have family and friends around when you’re sick. They will give you all the support you will need; emotionally, spiritually, and financially. But none of them can ever help you with your physical pain, so take care of your body in every possible way you can.” (And oh, have you seen her at her age now?! Just wow.)

At my recent homecoming, I was shocked to hear sad news of distant relatives, the-who-you-are-people-in-town, and even common friends of friends about their untimely deaths, who seemed to be living healthy lives as I can remember.

Their common culprit: heart attack and high blood.

Well, why, I’m not surprised?! Look at the food I ate in the coconut republic...sooo cholesterol friendly!

So as this blog entry says: Let's talk about a healthy lifestyle (and mindset!)

Because I stumbled upon French-Filipino blogger, Erwan Heussaff’s interview, as he talked about his advocacy and I wanted to back him up. Feeling close lang! Chos! 


1. Teaching Filipinos how to cook healthy and enjoying their food.

2. Internationalized Filipino food culture (like Thai & Japanese).


He also talked about losing weight—the healthy way and changing his lifestyle into living healthier and never looking back.

Geez, he was once 240 lbs. as a 20 year old guy. But look at him now, such a H-O-T-T-I-E!!!

Can you believe he lost half of that weight in six months?!


How?

1. He cooked his own food.

2. He started an active lifestyle a.k.a. going to the gym, walk, swim, run, and bike. He became an Ironman athlete.

3. He motivated himself and he took the will power that he can do it.


What kind of foods?

You CAN’T eat anything that was processed or touched by the hands of man: canned goods, wheat, flour, processed beans, rice, sugar, starch, fast food, junk food

You CAN eat anything that was killed or picked: meat, fish, sea foods, roots, vegetables, eggs, fruits


Check out more of his healthy dishes & recipes at www.thefatkidinside.com

But how can you engage a person to be on a healthy diet? Erwan: You can’t. You have to influence them to be healthy.


How do i keep a healthy lifestyle?

1. I don’t drink cold. Or soda drinks anymore. I swear! I switched to lukewarm water/ tea because as the Chinese believed, drinking hot water will help release the oil in your body through urinating. So even if I eat fatty foods, I make sure to combat it by drinking LOTS of lukewarm water. And the reason why I don't have bulging stomach! :P

2. I stopped eating fast food. I can’t remember when was the last time I ate McDonalds or KFC.

3. I cook my own meals, in that way I know what's on it. This was because I heard/read in the news that although Chinese foods are generally healthy, they put some nasty stuffs in it. Heard of baozi made of cardboard box instead of meat?! Yuck. Yuck. Yuck.

4. I gave up the alcohol. I occasionally drink wine. I think I have accumulated all the alcohol that my 20 something self has ever taken. And that was enough for me.

5. My form of exercise is walking. Since I don’t have the time and the will to go to the gym, I walk myself by using the stairs both from-to the 5th floor of my office and my house. I occasionally bike and swim too.

6. I look for healthy options with my foods. I eat wheat bread and brown rice instead of the regular ones. I drink coffee in the morning but drink two/three cups of tea the whole day. I also make sure that I eat fruits within the day. And of course, enough sleep at night.

7. Erwan was really right when he said, if you want to do something, you will. And I really took an effort to give time for my cooking-- and eating healthily. Although, I did not have a hard time moving away from junk foods and fast food because I never liked them anyway but I do indulge myself to a box of chocolate every now and then. ;)

As a conclusion and again, I completely agree with Erwan (Yes, close talaga kami! :) ) when he said: 


“The more you do it, the more your body can ingrain it. It’s all about balancing a lifestyle. Be strict and disciplined. And indulge a little bit.”

UPDATE: I wrote this blog while I was still living in China. But last month, I was able to watch a mind-opening documentary on Netflix: What The Health! And I highly recommend watching it if you have a subscription. I even bought the book so that I can even read more about this topic. 

Basically, the documentary is about BEING HEALTHY by only eating plant-based diet. Meaning: no meat at all! Vegan all the way, baby! I know it's tough for all of us, but if you do get to see the documentary, it will really encourage you to go vegan. I swear!

What I learned from this movie: Dr Neal Barnard, "Diabetes is not and never was caused by eating a high carbohydrate diet, and it's not caused by eating sugar. The cause of diabetes is a diet that builds up the amount of fat into the blood. I'm talking about a typical meat-based, animal-based diet. You can look into the muscle cells of the human body, and you find that they're building up tiny particles of fat that's causing insulin resistance. What that means is, the sugar that is naturally from the foods that you're eating can't get into the cells where it belongs. It builds up in the blood, and that's diabetes."

So I'm slowly trying to move away from meat but yes, it's very, very, very difficult to do. But I know I can. And I will. And so I hope you do, too. ☺

Here's the trailer of What The Health!


Have you embraced a healthy lifestyle? What was difficult to give up on your diet?

Let's Talk About Beauty

 

WHAT DO YOU LOVE AND YOU DON'T LOVE

ABOUT YOUR BODY?


For the most part of my growing-up years, I thought that whatever "shortcomings" I had in my body will be my life-long insecurities. But then, LIFE happens--- like moving to a new country, to a diverse culture, and to different standards.

In the end, I became proud all of my-so-called-insecurities...

I have small boobs. I've been surrounded by women in my family who were just as flat as me, so I was never been insecure, nor did I think of having more after realizing that some girls have "gifted" boobs.

I have big eyes. Countless of Chinese girls have swoon their love for my big eyes and wished to their gods they were also born with such.

I have brown skin. My European girlfriends would swear to trade their skin to me. Once or twice a year they spend $$$$ just for skin tanning. Yes, Kate Middleton you're included!

Being skinny is genetic. So don't hate me. I have told some guys I've dated that I would have loved to gain weight. That's why I'm most likely the last one to stand up from a dinning table.

I know, I know, I'm not going to be a hypocrite by saying I don't have any insecurities in my body. Sheeettt, that woman named Candice Swanepoel is she for real?!? I also saw her last month with her baby bump at a furniture store and she was exquisitely divine! The world is indeed unfair! 

Yet again, seeing the likes of her, on billboards, magazines, TV, and social media created thousands & thousands of insecure women around the world.

But did you know that it's what killing us softly...women's body are turned into things & objects by media (and advertising).

It has become a heartbreaking epidemic in our society for over 40 years!


How can we stop this?


We need to change our attitude. 

I became aware that the more I embrace my flaws, the more I become content with my body. 

We all need to stop obsessing to be someone we're totally NOT. 

I can't be Candice Swanepoel because I don't have her genes and blood, and I'm sure she's having a tough time to cope up with her own hotness. Physical beauty is fleeting, we'll all grow old with wrinkles and saggy boobs. Haha.

What we all need is simplify our lives. 

I just realized this when I started packing my things. I spent a lot of my money on CRAP! I had more garbage than real and valuable things. Frenchie taught me that spending money on worthwhile expenditures made me richer, a.k.a. traveling, good food, and good books.

I am also lucky to be surrounded by strong, unique, and amazing women, who continuously remind me that women's beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and they don't give a shit of not being the "normal" size that our shallow society expected from us all.


So please, please, choose to embrace and love your uniqueness. Your individuality. And your amazing-ness as a whole person. Nothing less.



So girlfriends, how can we REALLY start loving ourselves? In what ways?